http://queenofconfidence.disqus.com/NoneenThu, 16 Jun 2011 09:29:53 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/audacious-affirmations-youre-not-broken-youre-single-or-stop-condescending-to-me-you-paired-up-people-by-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence/#comment-227291809I, personally, am happy in my relationship. That said, I have always found you to be a happy person and a joy to be around. You are not incomplete and have never seemed to need more than the friendships with which you surround yourself. I have no reason to feel sorry for you. I would much rather spend my time and energy being happy to have someone like you in my life.<br><br>Honestly, studies have shown that while men have better health in committed relationships, women seem to be healthier when single (as long as they have a social network). <br><br>Now, Matthew and I have been known to invite single friends to come spend time with us, but that's because we want their company. Friends are valuable to us and we want to be around them because we value their company. I would hope that they would enjoy spending time with us and that we bring value to them with our company, but I would not presume that they 'need' to be around us to complete themselves.<br><br>You are joy, complete and whole unto yourself. Your happiness spreads that joy to any who can learn to open themselves to the light of your company. Love begets love and bringing joy and love to the world is the best justification for living.AmiThu, 16 Jun 2011 09:29:53 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-stop-being-bitches-to-each-other-a-plea-for-feminine-kindness-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence/#comment-213042108Well said molly.  "Our tempers, our senses of entitlement, our bruised egos and fear-based judgments" lead us into missperceptions of the intent of others.  We are truly in this together. Much easier if we stop assuming and start truely talking to each other.JeriFri, 27 May 2011 19:54:49 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/your-confidence-tip-of-day-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence-stop-trying-so-damned-hard-fercrissakes-opportunity-paralysis-rears-its-ugly-head-do-less-accomplish-more/#comment-213025031While recovering from surgery, I had a month to think about my life, my job, and my business.  I spent a lot of time focusing on my business.  With alternating feelings of elation, despair, and overwhelmed, I came to the conclusion that this is my business, and I can proceed at the pace that is right.  I don't have to answer to anybody or meet anyone's expectations.  Of all the advice and information I picked up over the last 5 weeks, I can pick and choose what I want to do, at the pace I need to do it.  What matters is that I know where I want to be and every day I move a little closer to my destination.<br>Linette YoungFri, 27 May 2011 19:16:59 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/one-confidence-tip-of-the-day-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence-anthems-change-your-outlook-in-a-moment-use-your-music-to-lift-yourself-up-inspire-and-motivate-you/#comment-198015220Dear gods, where to start? Irish, rock, or cajun for when I want to move and keep moving (housecleaning, weeding the garden, etc). Latin rhythms to make me smile and dance, country when I need to remind myself that I am loved ("Every River" by Brooks &amp; Dunn come immediately to mind here). Old Gordon Lightfoot songs help me slow down and de-stress, and early Melissa Etheridge tunes can help when I need to get fired up. Music, like color, is something I just can't seem to get enough of. My favorite? Why, all of them, of course!TrishThu, 05 May 2011 18:11:21 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/one-confidence-tip-of-the-day-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence-anthems-change-your-outlook-in-a-moment-use-your-music-to-lift-yourself-up-inspire-and-motivate-you/#comment-197785161Soundtracks of movies that made me wish I was in them really turn my imagination on. I can be walking or sitting, and certain fanfares or themes just wisk me away to where my author's head needs to be. There are also songs that make me cry when I feel my 'cry' is stuck and won't come out. "Her Strut" by Bob Seger, and nearly anything by Joan Jett can make me walk home with a pace that says "don't screw with me boys." I honestly don't know what I'd do if I suddenly couldn't hear, see, or write/paint.ThenaThu, 05 May 2011 12:30:29 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-a-humble-heart-has-the-greatest-chance-to-experience-the-magic-of-core-confidence/#comment-175993632Brilliant! ♥♥♥Lisa ValeroFri, 01 Apr 2011 00:20:48 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-a-humble-heart-has-the-greatest-chance-to-experience-the-magic-of-core-confidence/#comment-172532803This was truly beautiful, Molly. Thank you for tapping into such a rich place within yourself to bring forth this heart warming message. "A humble heart petitions rather than pummels." Exquisite.<br><br>Blessings,<br>SashaSasha SabbethSat, 26 Mar 2011 18:04:36 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/one-confidence-tip-of-the-day-wonders-and-miracles-and-how-things-change-part-1-of-a-2-part-series/#comment-172492343I'm right there with you Molly!ChristinaSmithSat, 26 Mar 2011 16:41:52 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-a-humble-heart-has-the-greatest-chance-to-experience-the-magic-of-core-confidence/#comment-172146676Oh, I _love_ this comment! You make some powerful points. Thank you Kathe.<br><br>Assorted mush,<br>MollyMollyBurkeSat, 26 Mar 2011 01:34:40 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-a-humble-heart-has-the-greatest-chance-to-experience-the-magic-of-core-confidence/#comment-171702356I think that far too many people equate "humble" with "self-abnegating". But being humble is not a state of feeling valueless, it is knowing exactly what your value is. This frees you to see the value in other people and things, rather than seeking a reflection or validation of your value in everyone and everything.<br>Kathe_waltersFri, 25 Mar 2011 12:16:18 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/another-audacious-affirmation-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence-herownself/#comment-171282297Molly, thank you. <br><br>I'm crying right now, because your words made me remember how my parents raised me, and I miss them. But it's a happy grief, because I may miss them, but they were there when it counted and they loved me and taught me to choose happiness. Mother told me in many ways that I was responsible for my own feelings and my own life (no one can keep you from getting an education but YOU). My father told me that it wasn't enough to "don't say anything if you can't say something nice", but that it was my responsibility to "find something nice to say" about others. Looking for the good in others helps me stay positive and focus on the good in myself.<br><br>I will always miss my parents, but I hope that I can pass along some of their wisdom, love and happiness.Ami LegareThu, 24 Mar 2011 17:44:35 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/this-just-in-the-queen-of-confidence-is-a-big-ol-introvert-gasp-shock-omg/#comment-160773450Thanks for speaking up as well, and for your kind encouragement. <br><br>I hope that there is someplace in your life where you can find the space you need, Pam. Taking a drive or a walk or holing up in the bathroom can provide some comfort when the stimulation becomes too much, and I can't get away. Or I go to bed early. I know you've developed some secrets for staying sane as well. We all need 'em.<br><br>Assorted mush,<br>Molly<br><br><br>MollyBurkeFri, 04 Mar 2011 21:19:31 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/this-just-in-the-queen-of-confidence-is-a-big-ol-introvert-gasp-shock-omg/#comment-160760705So well said Molly. I too work with the public and am an introvert, though no one there would ever guess. Unfortunately I can't come home to quiet ~ that just isn't my world at the moment. It was refreshing to see that I am "normal" (whatever that is) in needing that alone time so I can function. Thank you for the courage to bare your soul.PamFri, 04 Mar 2011 20:32:29 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/winter-misc-inspirations-from-molly-burke-cpcc-msu-queen-of-confidence/#comment-157752126Welcome back, and I love the new format of the Queen's page.ThenaMon, 28 Feb 2011 12:46:36 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/misc-inspirations-real-books-the-solace-of-reading-books-are-magic-my-first-friends-were-books/#comment-155936577Thanks, Candace. It is always a marvel to me to see which posts I write stir the souls of others. This one struck a nerve with a few people, I think.<br><br>I'd ask "how can anyone not love to read?" but my brother is dyslexic, so I get it when folks don't. I just feel blessed to love reading.<br><br>Assorted mush,<br>MollyMollyBurkeFri, 25 Feb 2011 11:46:38 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/misc-inspirations-real-books-the-solace-of-reading-books-are-magic-my-first-friends-were-books/#comment-155930340A glimpse into your childhood, but you found a way to cope. And what a wonderful way! Luckily, you did not equate your experiences with reading giving it a bad feeling. Rather you took it and ran with it leaving you with a wonderful habit! Books are just so wonderful! Nice post. Thanks.Candace C. DavenportFri, 25 Feb 2011 11:32:33 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/pearls-of-wisdom-asking-for-abundance-what-are-you-thinking/#comment-150328282Hi Molly,<br>Thanks for this reminder. Nicely said: It's a matter of focus. Wherever you aim your thoughts, that's the target you'll hit. And as I understand it, this usually works, sometimes despite the contradictory words you might use to express your ambition.Robbie SchlosserThu, 17 Feb 2011 14:16:58 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/rant-tastic-the-queen-of-confidence-speaks-her-mind-about-being-fat-part-1-of-an-indeterminate-number-of-parts/#comment-150213997I'm so grateful for your message and your feedback. I can see how this one post might seem as you characterized it.<br><br>Sometimes it's enough to just rant without preaching cures or solutions. Folks need to know that.<br><br>I hope that you'll take a bit of time to read a few more posts and make your decisions about my blog based on a bit more data. Perhaps you'll reach the same conclusion, but maybe not.<br><br>I know that my style is not to everyone's tastes, and that's just fine by me. As I am wont to say, if you don't like me, your feet can walk your happy ass away. No fault, no blame. All good. Life's too precious to stick around stuff that doesn't serve you, right?<br><br>At any rate, I truly bid you welcome and proffer my sincere thanks again.<br><br>Assorted mush,<br>Molly<br><br><br><br><br>MollyBurkeThu, 17 Feb 2011 12:11:14 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/rant-tastic-the-queen-of-confidence-speaks-her-mind-about-being-fat-part-1-of-an-indeterminate-number-of-parts/#comment-139888056This is the first post of yours I've read, and it's set a poor first impression for me.<br><br>I hate to sound unsympathetic, but doesn't this post just boil down to, "X is unfair"? It's easy to find millions of things in life that are unfair. And isn't complaining about a problem without trying to seek a solution just a waste of energy and a great way to put yourself in a bad mood?<br><br>I'd be much more interested in hearing about (a) re-framing those negative thoughts into positive ones and (b) effective strategies for feeling good about yourself.DaydreamblighterThu, 03 Feb 2011 17:24:49 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/rant-tastic-the-queen-of-confidence-speaks-her-mind-about-being-fat-part-1-of-an-indeterminate-number-of-parts/#comment-138196198Dear Molly,<br>I felt compelled to share this incident with you in light of what you write above. I was in my local grocery store a few evenings ago - waiting my turn at the checkout counter... There were 3 women in line ahead of me - The "person" in front of me (she was no lady so we shall call her Cruella) began yelling at the first person in line - YELLING -from what I could gather the nice lady currently being checked out ( we shall call her Amy) had inadvertantly kept some cars waiting in the parking lot and Cruella hadn't liked it so chose to go on the attack... Cruella read Amy the riot act for several minutes saying she almost caused an accident and needed to learn how to drive and on and on... Amy, bless her heart, quietly said she was sorry her attacker was having a bad day but felt her comments were unwarranted.. Cruella responded to Amy by getting even louder and gesticulating and by screaming that she was trying to teach Amy how to drive... that she was NOT having a bad day but that Amy was FAT, really FAT and should quit putting food in her mouth because that was why she was FAT!!!! I was quite simply appalled. Not just because these comments were SO very out of line with absolutely NO relevance at all to the supposed reason Cruella was incensed to begin with - these comments were simply and effectively used as a weapon - Amy blushed, continued to quietly try to deflect the conversation and those of us around her - the women in between them, me, directly behind the evil antagonist and the person directly behind me - all stood silently by and let this happen. I am still reeling from the attack on poor Amy and I am mortified that I said nothing - I am hoping to run into Amy some day in our local market and have every intention of walking right up to her when I do and praising her for her kind heart and attitude toward this she-devil - <br>Each of us is fearfully and wonderfully made - God's work is amazing and miraculous and we are beautiful, each and every one of us - regardless of whatever the current fad or societal norm of the day tries to brainwash us into believing. Amy rocks! Molly rocks, I too, have been known to rock ... :-)Kathypage143Tue, 01 Feb 2011 11:15:33 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/rant-tastic-the-queen-of-confidence-speaks-her-mind-about-being-fat-part-1-of-an-indeterminate-number-of-parts/#comment-138180091A few comments, if I may be so bold. It is a comfort to know that someone who exudes confidence, as you so clearly do, can also have body image issues, as I so clearly do. That's a bit of misery-loves-company right there, or perhaps it is merely humanizing of you.<br><br>As a happily married woman who sincerely intends never to enter the 'dating scene' again, you'd think that I could let the extra weight not bother me, but not so. While I have the utmost confidence that my husband will love me and find me attractive at any weight, I find myself less interested in sex when I am at my fattest, simply because I don't feel sexy. And that's MY problem, not his, and yet he suffers for it.<br><br>And last: my daughter. I have a six year old daughter, and I have always said that I don't want to transfer my body image issues onto her, that I don't want her to see me obsess over my body or fret or cry or be all that bothered by the way I look, and I'm afraid that I'm failing in that. These issues are so nefarious and so ingrained in our culture, they creep in without you even realizing it.Heather RoniTue, 01 Feb 2011 10:33:48 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/one-confidence-tip-of-the-day-wonders-and-miracles-and-how-things-change-part-2-of-a-2-part-series/#comment-137259333What a boost to my day! I'm going to think about this some more!Jimmy TeeSun, 30 Jan 2011 12:13:54 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/misc-inspirations-successful-author-ive-got-the-props-i-wrote-the-book-im-ready/#comment-125855342Congratulations! So proud of and for you. xoxo -KateBibliosaurusFri, 07 Jan 2011 16:42:36 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/warriorpreneur-ann-evanston-americas-social-media-psychologist-features-me-as-her-fan-of-week/#comment-96980869Just saw this.... Nice! Great shout-out to Ann (and Beautiful photo too!!). <br><br>Molly, I'm always reading great things about you from Ron B... sweet :)<br><br>Heidi Alberti and AtticusUncensoredAtticus UncensoredSat, 13 Nov 2010 20:13:47 -0000http://www.lifepurposeworks.com/misc-inspirations-nuisance-abatement-and-the-starlings/#comment-89370382Great work! Thank you for posting this information.woodworking project plansSat, 23 Oct 2010 05:51:37 -0000